Fast Tube by CasperAs a society we are confronted with images of sex on a regular basis and yet sex itself is still a taboo topic, even in relationships.
Sure it’s not always the most comfortable conversation and yes it can be awkward to try and talk to any one but your best friend about it, but that shouldn’t stop us. I believe Salt N’ Pepa said it best: “Let’s talk about sex, baby, let’s talk about you and me, let’s talk about all the good things and bad things that can be.”
With studies coming out saying that women are even more at risk than ever for contracting STIs, STDs, and HIV, it is time that we leave the squeamishness behind and make conversations about sex and staying safer a must do in relationships. No matter who you are having sex with, it is important to know the facts and ask the questions that will keep you and your partner safer.
There are more ways to protect yourself then ever. Female condoms, gels, dental dams, you name it; it’s out there. So why would anyone, especially women, risk it?
As far as I am concerned you have one body, one life, why chance it? If your partner refuses to practice safer sex, ask them if they care about your health. If this is a one-night thing then make sure you speak up.
We advocate for communication about sexual assault and consent and making sure you are comfortable (which is extremely important) but we also need to advocate for communication in the bedroom that consists of who has the protection. There is no rule that says women can’t buy condoms and there is also no reason to be embarrassed in buying them (although I agree that there is no need to keep them behind the counter and make you make a thing about it-but that’s another blog).
Safer sex is an important conversation and something that everyone should educate themselves on. It’s okay to say, “Let’s talk about sex”.