Event Preview: “I Am Enough!” Photo Campaign

By Ann Varner

Part of being a feminist is empowering yourself and others and reminding them that they are “enough.” When your friends are feeling down, it’s easy to remind them that they are smart enough, beautiful enough, and strong enough. However, we are our own harshest critics.

This campaign organized by the UMKC Women’s Center, UMKC Counseling Services, and Swinney Recreation Center will help you encourage yourself and others to face your biggest insecurities and realize that you are “good enough.” The goal of this movement is to help students reject the pursuit of what society deems as perfection and realize that all of us are perfect the way we are.

For this event, we will have whiteboards and markers with the words “I Am _______ Enough.” In the middle is where you will write something – for example, I am insecure about my looks and my intelligence. In the middle, I would write “beautiful” and “intelligent.” We’ll then take a picture of you holding your sign. This is to empower students and help them realize that we are all enough in our own way. I encourage you to come and participate in this event with a powerful message!

What: “I Am Enough!” Photo Campaign

Who: UMKC Women’s Center, UMKC Counseling Services, and Swinney Recreation Center

When: Wednesday, October 17, 11:00 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.

Where: Miller Nichols Learning Center Lobby, 800 E. 51st Street

For more information, contact the UMKC Women’s Center at 816-235-1638 or email umkc-womens-center@umkc.edu.

See you there!

Putting an end to body policing in the media

By Korrien Hopkins

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Demetria Obilor, a local traffic anchor with ABC affiliate WFAA in Dallas, made headlines for her inspiring response after a woman body-shamed her on social media. Since then people all over social media have been showing their support, while many others are shaming her for simply being herself.

“I’m waking up from my Friday nap to some controversy, but a whole lot of love,” Obilor said in a video she posted to Twitter. “The controversy is coming from people who aren’t too happy with the way that I look on television saying, ‘Oh, her body is too big for that dress. It’s too curvy.’ Or, ‘Her hair, it’s unprofessional, it’s crazy. We don’t like it.’”

Women are continuously being policed to live up to societal expectations.

More specifically, women of color and black women, in particular, have been consistently scrutinized and body-policed. This includes being shamed for attributes that are seen as desirable on women of other ethnicities. What is “hot” on the Kim Kardashians and Iggy Azaleas of this world is often seen as “ghetto” or “inappropriate” on women of color.

Obilor told ABC News in a statement that “helping to cultivate confidence and self-esteem” in women and girls “is something that I put my entire heart into.”

“For so long, women have been marginalized and prescribed a narrow-minded concept of beauty. We have to shatter all of that and unite to shape a better, more tolerant world for the future,” she added. “We need to embrace every body type, every color, every hairstyle … at the root of it, we are all human and no one should ever be discriminated against based solely on the way that they look.”

Obilor is using her platform to show that her hair and body is just as professional as those with more European features that society is more comfortable with. The media should continue to show the uniqueness of all people. Every news anchor doesn’t have to look the same and shouldn’t be shamed for how they are. It is up to us to stand up and accept diversity. To see Obilor so unapologetically curvy and curly is very inspiring to me and many women around the world.

To see people around the country are supporting her is even for inspiring. It shows us that we have a platform, as well. With this platform, we can accept and uplift each other, putting an end to the haters.

Your Summer Body

by Thea Voutiritsas

Summer is just around the corner. In KC, that means the sweltering, dog breath days of summer are upon us. For some, that means breaking out the daisy dukes and spaghetti straps; and for others, it means doing laundry three times a day and sticking with light fabrics and colors. No matter how you choose to beat the heat, remember that your summer body is simply your body in the summer.

Summertime doesn’t mean you, or anyone else should to shed a few pounds. You don’t have to wear skin bearing clothes if you don’t want to. The most important thing is to wear what makes you comfortable, and what makes you feel confident. Here’s a list of things you should actually worry about this summer:

  1. Sun protection: Protecting your skin from damaging rays can curb your chances at cancer. Wearing sunscreen higher than SPF 15, or wearing hats to protect your face from the sun can help. Wearing lightweight clothing that covers your forearms or legs can be helpful too. Plus keeping your skin shaded will help keep you cool.
  2. Hydration: If your spending long spans of time out in the heat, you’ll need to replenish your body. Staying hydrated by drinking plenty of water can help prevent heatstroke.
  3. Bug prevention: avoiding mosquitoes seems to be easier for some than others. If you find yourself getting bit frequently, wear a bug spray or repellent to protect yourself from excess itching and even disease. Additionally, avoid sweet and flowery perfumes that may actually attract bees and other bugs.
  4. Water safety: When venturing into deep waters, wear a life jacket with the right fit. Whether out on a lake or in the ocean, even the best of swimmers can get cramps or fatigue. When in shallow water, be sure to take breaks and have ample wait time after eating before reentering the water.

Regardless of what you choose to wear, protecting your body year-round will help keep you happy. We hope you find these tips helpful, and have a wonderful and safe summer!

Alicia Keys’ No Make-Up Movement

by Korrien Hopkins

Eva Rinaldi [CC BY-SA 2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Alicia Keys is an American singer, songwriter, pianist, and actress. The Girl on Fire singer has been generously blessing our souls with her soulful realness and insanely amazing vocal and pianist skills since the early 2000s. Today, you can find her bare faced and beautiful. Alicia Keys is helping to spread the “No Makeup Movement” to encourage young women to feel comfortable in their own skin.  She launched this campaign late last year. She wrote in her Lenny Letter essay,

“I don’t want to cover up anymore, Not my face, not my mind, not my soul, not my thoughts, not my dreams, not my struggles, not my emotional growth. Nothing.”

She has been spreading the word of her campaign on NBC’s hit show The Voice, where she is a coach. She has been hitting the red carpets flaunting her radiant glow of self-love and acceptance. She makes It very clear that she doesn’t want her message to be confused with her being anti make-up. Of course, not everyone is as accepting of themselves or by society. Alicia Keys is a lighter complexion black female displaying fairly European features that are praised in this white-washed society. And of course, unlike her, not every woman has access to high end facial products and dermatologist she may use. Even without being accepted by society, or having perfectly clear skin it is important that women love and accept themselves unapologetically.

Those with minor skin conditions have many small things that can be done to help alleviate skin issues, which can in turn boost your confidence and overall health of your skin. Alicia Keys said that eliminating dairy from her diet contributed to her acne-free skin. I am a witness to this first hand. On my journey to veganism, I slowly eliminated dairy from my diet and saw drastic changes. Also drinking tons of water has helped. As women, we are pressured to look a certain way all the time and from experience, I know how frustrating it is to get asked, “Are you sick?” and hearing, “You look really tired” (which I may be, since I’m a college student and all) on the day I decided not to wear makeup.

Alicia Keys proves women can skip the make-up, whether its to enjoy those few extra minutes in bed, or to let their skin breathe. I love makeup, I literally get to paint my face and I thoroughly enjoy it. On days I feel down, doing my makeup helps lift my spirits because, in my opinion, any form of art heals. Alicia Keys’ no makeup movement has helped me to embrace my natural beauty. Its easy to use this movement to compare to your bare face to others, but that does more hurt than harm. Highlight and contour should not be a requirement to feel beautiful. So, I salute those who join the movement if even for a day as well as those who don’t. In the words of Beyoncé, I enjoy waking up and going to class saying, “I woke up like this.” In all reality, do what makes you happy and not society, and do it unapologetically so.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3771014/Alicia-Keys-explains-s-going-makeup-free-gets-Today-s-Tamron-Hall-join-in.html#ixzz4bsSLGZkI

Dairy and Skin Issues:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/beauty-hair/advice/a36659/adult-acne-treatment-dairy/                    http://www.clearskinforever.net/milk-acne-does-milk-cause-acne/

 

Self Love Tips:

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/30-ways-practice-self-love-and-good-yourself.html

http://www.positivityblog.com/self-love-today/

Don’t Hate the Shake

by Danielle Lyons

image via creative commons

Body Positivity. It’s something people spend their whole lives trying to achieve. While it’s one thing to claim body positivity as the lens you see yourself through, it’s another thing to show the world.

#donthatetheshake, is a hashtag taking over Instagram. Spreading through the body positive community like wildfire. Megan Crabbe, also known as bodyposipanda on Instagram is responsible for this movement. After recovering from Anorexia Nervosa, she became an advocate for body positivity. She told Cosmo, “It wasn’t until I found body positivity that I finally made peace with food, exercise, and my body.”

After showing a short clip of herself dancing unashamed, others soon followed suit. Flocks of women and women alike have been displaying the natural movement and jiggle of their bodies via dancing. The message being: I’m proud of my body.

What the ({V}) is V-Day and Why does it Matter?

by Matiara Huff

The Vagina Monologues is an episodic play by Eve Ensler. The plays are based on the stories of over 200 women who Eve interviewed around the world. It started with conversations with friends about the injustices that people with vaginas face. It evolved into finding deep connections to women all over the world facing uniquely similar issues. Each monologue is about a different aspect of the feminine experience, tackling subjects like sex, love, rape, menstruation, female genital mutilation, masturbation, birth, orgasm, and vaginas. vday17logoAll performances are non-profit and all money earned goes toward groups working to end violence against women and girls. Over $100 million has been raised by this event so far.

The Vagina Monologues spawned a global movement called V-Day. V-Day surrounds The Vagina Monologues to promote awareness and raise money for organizations working to end violence. Hence the slogan, “Until the Violence Stops.” There have been performances all over the world, and that includes UMKC.

Be sure to see the show and support local organizations working against violence. It will be in the UMKC Student Union Theater on Thursday, February 16 at 7pm. Tickets are now available to purchase through the Central Ticket Office.

Personal Space

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By Matiara Huff

This slam poetry video featuring Reagan Meyers a great description of what it feels like when a women’s personal space is constantly being invaded.  It is degrading when someone ignores my existent and lazily reoccupy the space I am taking up. No one deserve to be force to feel small and insignificant. Try to be mindful of the people around you, consider how they might be feeling. Someone’s personal space should not be a tactic for negation or away to make yourself more comfortable. If you feel like your personal space is being invaded, speak up. You deserve to always be comfortable where ever you are.

Black Dolls Matter

ByImage courtesy of Flickr. Korrien Hopkins

Dolls play a pivotal role in the development of girls. I remember going to Toys R Us with my family to use the gift cards our uncle had given us for Christmas. I remember going through the aisle looking for that Easy Bake Oven I had been anxious to get. After I got it, I went to the doll section. I glanced through the dolls looking for one that resembled me. No Luck. So grabbed a doll from the long selection of white dolls. My grandma came over with my brothers and asked me if there were any black dolls. “No,” I responded. She quickly found an employee and kindly asked them if they had any ethnic dolls. The employee helped us look through the dolls and checked in back. Unfortunately, they had no luck in finding a black doll. I spent the rest of the money on something else. I was a bit disappointed but quickly got over it. I learned my importance and worth from my mother. What my mother didn’t tell me I found on my own. Thanks to community, to black media, and my spiritual interpretation; I have been greatly influenced by the black excellence I see. That I am pretty and important but, why is this something I had to find on my own?

Positive self-images should be poured into children. I can clearly see why it is important for stores to sell black dolls. Playtime Projects is an organization that collects toys for homeless children. “Author Debbie Behan Garrett explains, “When a young child is playing with a doll, she is mimicking being a mother, and in her young, impressionable years, I want that child to understand that there’s nothing wrong with being black. If black children are force-fed that white is better, or if that’s all that they are exposed to, then they might start to think, ‘What is wrong with me?’ By providing children with African-American dolls that reflect their beauty, we can help to instill in them a positive self-image.”

In my psychology class we have talked about the “Doll Study.” This was a study that’s was done in 1939 by psychologists Kenneth & Mamie Clark, it examined black children’s preferences for white and black dolls and found that the children tended to find the white doll to be “nicer” and more enjoyable to play with. Perhaps fewer people, though, are aware that this study was repeated in 2005 by the then 17-year-old Kiri Davis. She found similar results to the original study. While Dr. Thelma Dye of the Northside Center for Child Development cautions that these results should not lead to the assumption that all black children suffer from low self-esteem, she encourages continued exploration of the meaning of these studies.

Self-representation matters! Children should be able to think highly of themselves and see that they are thought highly of in society. Whether they are of African decent, European decent, Hispanic, or Asian, a child should be able see their culture present in the world. The United states is a country full of many different cultures and I believe those cultures should be represented and embraced in all communities. It should be easy to locate a variety of dolls that represent a wider spectrum of ethnicities wherever you may go.  Children should be able to see dolls of all shades because that is the refection of the world.

The Hairy Elephant in the Room: You Shouldn’t Be Embarrassed About Your Facial Hair

Photo courtesy of google images.By: Danielle Lyons

I totally have a beard. Seriously, I do. That feel’s weird to say, let alone type. It’s caused by Hirsutism. Sound unfamiliar? It’s new to me too. UCLA states, “Hirsutism in women is defined as excessive coarse hair appearing in a male-type pattern. It represents exposure of hair follicles.”  It can be caused by other conditions such as Insulin Resistance, Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, Cushing’s Disease and much more.  According to WebMD, 5% of women have hirsutism. However, I’ve encountered a lot of women that suffer from facial hair or excess body hair in general. For a condition that made me feel so alone, I was shocked and relieved to find comrades with the same issue.

One similarities I’ve noticed amongst women with hirsutism is the struggle of self-esteem. Most women don’t have to wake up to stubble or worry about their excessive body hair growth. I’m telling you, it’s not easy to manage. Like, dates for example. It sends me on an anxiety fueled hair removal frenzy. Armed with a razor, I’m like Conan the Barbarian preparing for battle. Nothing horrified me more than the thought of a date brushing against my stubble by accident. It’s a giant ordeal. According to Monash University, “Undesirable hairiness for a girl or woman can be a substantial cause of anxiety leading to low self-esteem and restrictions in lifestyle. For most women, unwanted facial hair generates the greatest anxiety.”

According to The Guardian, 40% of women have hair on their faces. Sure, some is more course or thick than others.  But that is a rather large number. The reactions I’ve gotten have generally been good. Some women confide that they have the same issue, or they know someone with it. Other women are just fascinated. I will admit, one or two people have been uncomfortable. But when raising awareness, you may not win them all.

Here’s the thing: Bodies are all so different. Any anyone worth keeping around, isn’t going to judge you or look at you any different. I forced myself to be more open about it because I was tired of being embarrassed. Slow but surely I started talking about it. And one day someone asked if they could feel my stubble. And you know what? The world didn’t end when I let them. They didn’t flinch or cringe. Without awareness, there isn’t much acceptance. Tina-Marie Beznec shared a photo of herself shaving to create awareness about Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. Hirsutism is often a symptom of this syndrome. In the caption she states, “Do you know how UNFEMININE this can make a woman feel?!? I’ve always been super self-conscious about it, but really just have to put this out there because I want create more awareness.”

Now, I’m not saying every sufferer has to post a photo or shout of from the rooftops. However, we owe it to ourselves to drop the shame. And we owe ourselves self-acceptance. S. E. Smith of XOjane states, “Women come in a lot of different flavors, and all of them are pretty great.” Next time you look in the mirror inspecting stray hairs or stubble, I hope you remember that you are beautiful, strong and wonderful. With or without the beard.

If you are at the beach, your body is beach ready.

By Mirella Flores

summer-timeSummer is quickly approaching, and with it an influx of articles on how to get that “summer body.” I am all for taking care of your body, including being more conscious of what you eat and drink and exercising. What disturbs me about these types of articles are not the tips they give, but rather the message they convey – Your body is wrong and you need to fix it.

No. Your body is not wrong. Society is wrong. There is a difference between taking care of your body and fixating on “improving” it. If it is summer, your body is summer ready. If you are at the beach, your body is beach ready. Unfortunately, I cannot control the hurtful messages out there, but I can provide you with a couple of articles that may help you reclaim your body.

11 Easy Things You Can Do When You’re Just Not Feeling Yourself. As the title gives away, this article contains 11 things you can do start feeling yourself again. Numbers 5, 6, and 7 are some of my favorites. Number five is “Give yourself a pep talk you would give your best friend.” Yes, feel free to go Leslie Knope on yourself.

The Cognitive Triangle

The Cognitive Triangle

Number six is “Do something that tests your strength, endurance, or coordination.” Instead of trying to “fix” your body, doing something that tests your body’s ability would help you appreciate your body for what it can do. Number seven, “Come up with a badass mantra that actually gets you pumped up,” is something I use in my work with clients (as a counselor). This tip is effective because it taps into the “thoughts” of the cognitive triangle (see right). Allow me to get into counselor mode. Our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are connected. The idea under telling ourselves a positive mantra is that we are controlling our thoughts, which then will affect our emotions and actions.

10 Little Spells That’ll Help Send Love To Your Body. Again, the title of this article is self-explanatory. Whether or not you are doing working for a flatter belly, take some time and do the spell for your abs, “Blow up a bunch of balloons to different sizes (or you can use bubble wrap) and attach them to your body, like you’re creating a balloon body suit. Jump up and down, dance, and roll around in your balloon armor because your belly is a beautiful shield that can expand and flex and handle a lot of crazy things that we don’t give enough credit for.” Silly I know, but no judgement whether you do it or not. The point here is to take some time to appreciate our abs (because we all have abs) and other body parts… you can have some fun with it!

Stop body shaming others and yourself. Get out there and enjoy the warm weather and water, or whatever outdoors activity you want to do.