Every person has his or her own definition of success, and we all want to be successful. If we don’t achieve success, then it is said that we have failed. Many people are afraid of failure. Nobody wants to fail, but you have to understand that failure is a part of everyone’s life. Every single person in the world fails at least once in his or her life. The reason is simple: there is no perfect human being.
Since we were little kids, we were taught that failure is bad. Indeed, there are some people that are extremely value perfection and whose biggest fear in life is failure. But the problem is that you can’t avoid failure; it’s going to happen sooner or later. The people that are not used to failing will have a harder time overcoming it.
I am not afraid of failing anymore. To be honest, I don’t even remember being afraid of failing and I really have to thank my parents for this. Since I was a kid, they taught me that it’s ok to fail and that it is ok to fall down. They taught me to see failure as an opportunity, as something good, as a second chance, and as something that will make you stronger. This has really helped me so much in my life. Thanks to my parents, I learned to see failure as part of life and as a positivity instead of a negativity.
On the other hand if you’ve been taught all your life that failure is a bad thing, what should you do when you fail?
Take a break. If you suddenly failed without expecting it, it is ok to take a break. It is ok to be sad; you can even cry if you need to. Take one or two days at maximum to recuperate. Any longer would be giving up and giving up is not allowed. The sooner you start trying again, the better.
Analyze. Think about what went wrong. What happened to cause failure? Once you have identified these things you can:
a) Try again, but this time harder and putting more effort into your goal.
b) Try again, but this time change the strategy.
If you fail again, repeat steps one and two until the desired outcome is obtained.
These are three simple steps that will lead you to success. I will advise you that the hardest step to follow is the second one. I’m amazed of how many people give up after failing just once. The questions that you need to ask yourself are, “How bad do I want it?” and “Am I willing to do everything I can to achieve success?” The drive to triumph is what will make you try again and again until you achieve success. Remember, if you want to succeed, failure will always be needed. You will have to try again. It’s up to you to see the positive part of failing. A great example of this concept is Thomas A. Edison. When he was asked about all the times he failed in his experiments while trying to create the light bulb, he allegedly said, “I have not failed 1,000 times. I have successfully discovered 1,000 ways to not make a light bulb.”