5 tips for living with a roommate

Communication is key

Although it could be possible to live with your roommate for years and not speak a single word to each other, I imagine it would be pretty awkward. If they accidentally mistake your tooth brush for their own, are you going to sit there and watch them do it?

Communication is key to maintaining a healthy relationship with your roommate. Respect each other in the process, and always listen to what the other has to say.

Boundaries are essential

This doesn’t mean drawing a physical line across the middle of the floor and forbidding the other to cross it. Establishing boundaries is essential in the first few months of living with a roomate, but they will also fade over time as you grow more comfortable with each other.

It may take some time getting used to if you’ve never lived with a roommate before, but let them know if something makes you uncomfortable. He or she may not have realized how it made you feel. Let them know when a boundary is crossed, and next time they won’t use your deodorant when they run out.

Rely on your resources

First and foremost, you could probably request to get the lock changed on your door because you strongly dislike your roommate, but 10 out of 10 times the answer is going to be no.

Hopefully this is not a problem you will experience as young adults, but know that you always have people who are willing to help you with this new process, like your RA who is right down the hall. There are also many other resources available through Residential Life, but try and solve the issues on your own before bringing someone else into the situation.

Schedule time outside of class to be with others

There are 16,000 other students on campus who are waiting to get to know you, so no matter how much you love your roommate or your dorm, it is important to go out and do things on campus without your roomate.

Spending too much time together can often push people away, and nobody wants to be cooped up in a 12’ by 12’ dorm room all day. Actively make plans with others outside of class as well as with your roommate.

Respect the wishes of your roommate

Last but not least, please respect the wishes of your roommate. You may not always agree with each other, but that does not make their opinion any less important than yours.

With all of these tips combined, you are on your way experiencing some of the best years of your life while creating many life-long friendships. Good luck!

 

chtx9@mail.umkc.edu

 

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